3 Easy Ways To Find True Friendship
A few close friends are all I need to feel connected to others. I have never needed many friends, but I do have many acquaintances. For me, a friend is someone who will lift me up during my struggles. They will applaud my success. In essence, if you are not there for my struggles, don’t expect to be there for my successes. In other words, a true friend, will always be there. I also find that I only share my most important thoughts with those closest to me. It is rare that I openly give myself to many people. Trust, respect, and loyalty are at the top of my list for good friendships. These are also the qualities I will give to the friends in my life. I know myself. I rarely waiver.
1. Set Clear Intentions
Be clear on what type of person you want to spend your time with. Know who you are. Know what you are looking for in a friend. Remember one good friend is better than 1,000 fake friends. Take time to figure out why you want or need friends. Do you want friends in your life who inspire you? Do you want friends in your life who have common interests? Will your friends appreciate you and lift you up along the way? True blue friends. Nothing better than that. Once you know the what and the why, you will be on a good path to select your friends.
2. Know Yourself
Find what interests you. Discover who you are. Uncover your passions. Once you can truly define who you are, the selection of friends will come more clearly into focus. Another important component of knowing yourself, is to like yourself. Get involved in your own self-discovery. Don’t allow yourself to live status quo and never do any real soul searching. The status quo gets old after a while. Discovery, passion, and knowing oneself is a meaningful journey. Get excited. Get inspired. Light a fire. Glow from within.
3. Have fun
Finding your sense of humor in a crazy world is a talent these days. Learning to laugh with yourself and with others is important to longevity. Longevity in living the years of our lives. Longevity for solid friendships. My best friendships are with those close people whom I can laugh with right out loud. A friend’s jokes. A friend’s smile. Yeah, those are what move me some days. Have fun. Life is a great ride worth the ticket price. Get clear about what you want. Know yourself, better than anyone else knows you. Have fun because time is short, and you do not want to miss those moments to smile.
When we are in self discovery mode it can be harder to connect with others. We may find we are lost. We may find that no one really fits us. If you are ready for deeper self-discovery, seek out support. Connecting with a good support system in your life, a counselor or a coach can truly help pave the way to more defining moments in your life.
